How many times have you heard, “Vengeance is Mine?” This is just a statement to make your grudge against someone legal in your eyes. No one else will ever believe you are right.
I heard a story about a woman who was angry at her sister. She always said that her husband cheated on her with her sister. In the story they had not spoken for 10 years. In fact, her and her husband had moved away, and she had not been home to visit her family all this time.
One day the woman got a call from her mother; her sister was in a Hospice and was not due to live another day. She reluctantly agreed to fly down to be there for her mother.
After she arrived her mother introduced her to some people in the lobby. They talked for a while and then she met Heidi. Heidi was a friend of her sister’s and they had been the closest of friends for years.
During the conversation, Heidi disclosed the fact that she and the woman’s sister were married. The woman was speechless for a moment, finally she asked how long they had been seeing each other. Heidi told her they had met in Little Rock Arkansas on November 01, 2001.
Heidi stated that they had remained in Little Rock until November 21st. They had flown to Mexico and were married on November 25th.
The woman could not believe what she was hearing, and she challenged Heidi. Heidi left the room for a few moments. When she returned, Heidi produced a marriage certificate that proved what she was saying about the marriage.
The woman’s husband was gone during that period of time and she thought her husband had spent that weekend with her sister. The woman and her husband had separated and divorced in 2002. Since their divorce, the woman had lived her life in misery. The woman had hated her sister and the hatred had caused her not only mental problems; she had also developed ulcers.
This woman found out what could happen if we don’t follow God’s commands. The woman took it upon herself to want vengeance on her sister and the result was a loss of God’s love and mental and physical damage to her life.
Paul went even farther than God in his expression of the fight against anger. Paul tells us in Ephesians that it is ok to occasionally be angry, as long as we do not let the anger grow and become sin. Vengeance is a growth of anger. If we don’t forgive and release the anger, it will grow within us like it did in the woman.
This woman lost not only her sister because of her vengeance, she also lost her husband and her mental and physical health. Don’t be like this woman; turn your anger into laughter by having faith that God will deal with any situation concerning anger.
Our job is to give God the vengeance in our hearts, give forgiveness to the person we are angry at, and receive God’s love because we did the right thing.