Weekly Devotional April 24, 2021

Women and Marriage

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Ephesians 5:22-24 (NKJV)

For centuries the male population of society has tried to beat the woman into submission and put her barefoot and pregnant in the home. Many have used this scripture to say this is God’s will.

Many women have used this scripture as a rebellion toward men in society. Others have used this as a reason to simply live together and not get married.

It’s funny but I would venture to say that none of them have tried to find out, as Edward R Merle once said, the rest of the story.

No one bothered to study God’s word to learn what His motives were when He inspired Paul to write this in his letter to the people of Ephesus. (2 Tim 3:16)

I once heard Bob Hope tell a joke and say, “In my house I run everything. I run the vacuum, I run the dish washer, I run the washer and drier, I run everything.” Everyone laughed.

However if you study God’s word, that’s exactly what God is telling the man to do. (Gen 2:18) God created the woman to help man. If the dishes need washing, it’s the man’s responsibility to wash them. If the fields need to be plowed and sown, it’s the man’s responsibility to plow and sow them and the women is to be his helper. The woman was never intended to be barefoot and pregnant as a slave to a man. The woman was intended to submit to the man as his helper.

When the man submits to God, it is the wife’s responsibility to help the man worship God. You see if you study the scriptures in Genesis 1 and 2, you will find that woman is the only animal created using part of the male. Therefore, when the man and woman are married they are to work and worship God as one. (Gen 2:21-24)

Therefore men, lift up your wife in the eyes of society and cherish her above all you have, just as Christ lifts up and cherishes His church. The woman is your most prized possession, not your slave!!

And to Walk Humbly with Your God

He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?

Micah 6:8 (NKJV)

A few weeks ago, I told you about the doubt our friends had when my wife and I got married. The thought because we met at school in the military, our marriage couldn’t possibly last more than 2 years. They were wrong. We have been happily married for 44 years.

It occurs to me that I neglected to tell you why it lasted. It lasted for several reasons.

  1. We didn’t allow a piece of paper to dictate our feelings and trust for each other. Our marriage wasn’t the next logical step toward a married life. Our marriage was based on getting to know one another by talking daily and telling each other honestly how we felt. By talking instead of partying, we were able to come to an honest understanding of how each of us wanted our marriage to be. In other words, we had to have faith in each other just as we must have faith in God that He will love us more than we love Him.
  2. Our love for each other must be loyal. Marriage is a two-way street. The Husband and Wife can’t both be the same way. Each person must have their own personality and they must use that personality to help guide the marriage in the way it should go. If both parties have the same exact personality, marriage would be boring. You would be doing the same things all the time and that would get old. By being different, there is enough diversity to make the marriage interesting and fun.
  3. The same is true with our relationship to God. We don’t have a ritualistic relationship with God where we go to church on Sunday and put money in an offering plate to impress someone. We don’t run to the alter every time there is an alter call. After I surrendered my life to God, everything after that is between, he and I. I don’t need to put on a show so others can see that I have faith in God. If I humbly walk in the manner described in the bible for me to walk, people can see Christ in me.
  4. One of the hardest things for me to learn over the years was modesty in our marriage. I keep trying to impress my wife and show her that I can run things and keep our marriage running smooth. My wife has a subtlety about her that very gently smacks me back in my place when it is needed. One person can’t run a marriage, it takes a combined effort. Both sides of the couple must use all modesty in their dealings with each other; just as we must use modesty in our dealings with God.

To sum up what I have just said. To have a happy marriage you must both have faith in each other, you must both learn to act justly toward each other and help each other always. You must both have a “loyal love” toward each other just as Micah instructed the Children of Israel that they must do toward God. That is a love that will recognize the mercy that your spouse is showing you and learn to appreciate it. And finally, you must walk humbly with your spouse and allow your spouse to be a great influence in your life.

If we can learn to live together the way we should live with God, we will always have a long and happy marriage.

Love the Lord Your God

“Therefore, you shall love the LORD your God, and keep His charge, His statutes, His judgments, and His commandments always.

“Therefore, you shall love the LORD your God, and keep His charge, His statutes, His judgments, and His commandments always.

Deuteronomy 11:1 (NKJV)

Forty-three years ago, my wife and I met at Great Lakes Naval Base near Chicago Illinois. When we met, we were in what they called “A” school. We were both seeing other people at the time, but that only lasted a month or so. When we finally figured out that we were clearly in love, we decided to get married. Believe it or not, she asked me!

My friends, and her friends all told us we were rushing into a marriage that would not last. Our friends all told us the marriage would not last more than 2 years. On our third anniversary, I reminded her that she forgot to get a divorce.

My wife and I both figured out that marriage was something we would have to work at. You cannot just take life as it comes, there is a lot of forgiving each other, a lot of compromise and a lot of fun attached to a marriage.

Most people think love is all you need for a good marriage, but they are wrong. Love takes work, emotion, help from others, but it also takes devotion to each other. The experience of love is what you make of it.

Loving my wife is the most fulfilling thing I have ever done. She brings me joy, comfort, frustration, and she lifts me up when I fall.

My wife and I love God and we know He loves us. That does not mean we get a free ride. We still study the bible, that is how you learn God’s will. If we know what God wants us to do each day, then we can accomplish His will and more.

We still pray every day, multiple times. We still volunteer for different things concerning the homeless, the sick and those who just need someone to talk to.

Most of all we try to live the bible every day. We try to keep all God’s commands and we try to return at least a fraction of the love that God gives us on a daily basis.

Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” Therefore, you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.

Galatians 4:3-7 (NKJV)

My wife and I look at bible study on a personal note. What has God done for me? God listened to me when I repented of my sin. God gave His only begotten son to pay the debt for my sin on the Cross. God gave me his spirit to live in me and guide and help me if I listen to Him. God comforts me through the truth of His word. How much more love could I ask form God.

When my wife I got married they all said it wouldn’t last. When I was saved (28 years ago) People said I could not change. I did with the help of God’s Love.

Are you ready to change?

The First Wedding

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

18 And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
19 Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.
20 So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.
22 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:18-25 (NKJV)

During this pandemic, there are husbands and wives that have separated themselves from their families because they are doctors and nurses and do not wish to infect their families by accident because they carried the virus home in their clothing. These people are doing this by choice and because of their love for their families.

In the beginning of the world, man was alone, and it was God’s love that came forward. In Genesis 1:15, God stated that man was alone and needed a helper. It was because God loved His creation, “man,” and did not want him to be alone. God didn’t just create a woman in the same manner He created man, He put the man to sleep and use a rib from the man to create his mate. God wanted the man and woman to always be a part of each other. The man and woman had been joined together in such a way; they could never be parted.

Even today, it is still God’s will for each man to take one wife is the same manner as the first man and woman were joined.


It wasn’t the physical joining that made the love of Adam and Eve so special. Notice that it was God who was concerned; it was God’s Love for man that caused Him to be concerned. It was God that loved first, and he demonstrated to man just how to love.

There are a few marriages today that have lasted many years. If you look at these marriages, you will see that at least one of the two people was a Christian when they were married, and the other spouse became a Christian later.

Mankind on its own has no hope of putting together a marriage that will last a lifetime. It takes God and His love to accomplish that.

The same is true for salvation. Even after we receive the Holy Spirit and we have God living in us, there is still a struggle to not sin. Paul talked about his struggle with temptation in the 7th chapter of Romans. Just as Paul was able to conquer his struggle with sin, you can too if you use your love for God just as Paul did.

Faith can move mountains, but it takes the Love of God to conquer the temptation of sin. Faith just keeps us in good favor with God.


If we want to make it through this pandemic, we must remember the love God expressed toward man in the beginning of the world. This is the same love that God has for His people today. God loves the world (John 3:16) But it is the love God gives His people that will break the pandemic and help us to live the way God wants us to live.

I’m sure that after we start going back to church, there will be heretics that will blame God for this bad time just to play on the sympathy of the weaker members of the church to attempt to get more money from them. Remember the Love God had for Adam and ask yourself if God would try to destroy any man or women for his own gain. No!!

It was not God that caused this to happen, because God has never sinned. If He tried to destroy man (even evil men) the act would cause God to break his own commandments and that would be sin. God cannot sin.

Remember, God does not have a magic wand that He uses to do His work. God has disciples like you and me for that. God only directs people and leads His disciples in the way He wants them to go. It is up to the disciple to listen for God to speak and then we must act on what God tells us to do.

It has already been stated that when this is over, there will be a new normal. This new normal is for each person to adapt to. When you are looking for your new normal, study God’s word and allow Him to show you what that new normal should be.